This weekend was supposed to be special and memorable. I took my boyfriend Tim up to meet my birth family for the first time. I told him they were a little crazy, he believed me and was willing to take on the challenge of meeting them. We drove up Saturday afternoon, and got there a little before 5.
Then he met my sister, two brothers, birth mom, her husband, and several other friends of the family. It was a nice day of getting to know each other, sitting outside on the porch talking and taking in the beautiful weather.
Tori is my sisters name and we were celebrating her birthday on Sunday. Sunday rolled around Ken my birth moms husband made breakfast we all got ready then started decorating. The boyfriend met everyone else then grandma and grandpa and some cousins. They all like him compared to my last boyfriend, he was nice helped out, and everybody loved his car.
The day progressed the party started then ended people began to leave, and the drama started.....
There was fighting all night between my birth mom and sister, my birth mom and her husband. My little brother Noah didn't understand what was going on and needed someone to just comfort him.
I love my family, but when the fighting starts, who do you side with. I've grown up not knowing these people I cant take sides. I love them all even if we are a little crazy and we have to prevent people from killing each other. Overall the weekend was good Tim made a great impression and everybody loved him.
One thing I noticed though each time I go up and get closer to them, its harder to leave. When you are holding your little brother telling him you have to leave, you begin to want to stay. I know I had to leave but it still doesn't make it any easier.
I will always love both families.
That's a hard situation to be in, but especially when you've been adopted. Sometimes, you have to step back, and even step away from the situation. It's hard to take sides when you don't have the full story or agree with someone. All you can really do is give your own advice and let the chips lay where they be. It will then be up to them to decide what they want to do with the info. Sounds like you're the adult in the situation. That's the best way to handle squabbles--despite the age of everyone else.
ReplyDeleteBree, I think it's going to take some time for everyone in your "new" family to understand your role and theirs in your life. It is hard to take sides when you don't have a history to refer to. What does your adopted family think about all of this?
ReplyDelete(I'm interested because my brother and sister are both adopted. I'd like to talk to you about it sometime.)
Why not just name this blog "Family Ties"? It's catchy!
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